The stages of parenting by sarah__idrees.

Scholars or bookmen  categorised the steps of  parenting a child  into 3 stages

First 7 years = love and care
Second 7 years =manners and etiquette
Third 7 years =let them be your friends

At first seven the kids need a"sound"  love and care,let them feel loved! because this is the right  time their emotions will be developed, if he/she is not given proper love they would grow up with a stiff heart or not been sentimental which will definitely affects their relationship with people and situation even with their creator(when talking about the residence of the evildeeds in the hearafter) because when mentioning any difficulties to be faced they won't be cautious because they grew up unemotionally..

For example some parent when a kid fells down they won't raise him up or when he is crying they will let him cry without bringing him close and ask them the problem rather they will say leave him alone when he is tired he will be quite which is totally bad and to some extent a child will have a sanguine injury but they won't mind ! some parent might even say if i tell him sorry he would cry...

so all this act is directly killing the children's emotions!

The second 7 is manners and etiquette as it is said"charity begins at home" manners is not just teaching  them to greet people or thanking people! if he/she is not given proper manners they would grow up mannerless! and this is the right time to start  teaching them prayers also  because by age of 10 they enter their early adolescence, by mid adolescence is the risky stages because they would feel like they are  grown up, small things will make them angry to the extent they would start thinking if you are not their parent..so strictness is needed at this time don't let them scott free! try your best and build them well don't forget that if you didn't spend your time bringing them in a right way you will probably spend your time in court by the time they would be sued for their offence "spare the rod and spoil the child"

At the third  seven they are fully matured so let them be your friends and they need freedom...they have the chance to choose what's good for them.. your work here is to be their guidance and tell them whether what they want will be good or bad to them,then encouragement....And by this time you will have the assurance that wherever they find themselves,they won't disappoint you and they can be able to handle every situation,and guide alot of people regardless of their ages because is not about the age but a proper mindset...